So, are you willing to step out into the ten stage course? and treat yourself to loving-kindfulness.

If we're looking for truly Loving Kindfulness, it is very difficult to be in a relationship with someone who isn't on the path to this form of recovery. We don't have to love ourselves perfectly to find real freedom, but we have to be on the path towards Loving Kindfulness.



This also means that whomever we choose to be in a personal relationship with should be on that same path, too.



There will be a perfect moment where we recover ourselves and then we can be in a relationship with ourself. It's a constant process of discovery with no end. But for a recovery to thrive and for intimacy with ourselves to emerge, we must be dedicated to growth; otherwise, we will hit a wall.



A huge revelation for me recently has been that nobody, including myself, is perfect. It sounds obvious when I write it, but for many years I would meet people and project this expectation of perfection on to them.Whilst being attracted to dysfunction and I would get mad, angry and hurt when they wouldn't meet that expectation. So, I've recently decided that from the beginning of any relationships I start, that I want to acknowledge my own imperfection as well as the imperfection of the other person and consciously choose to enter into a relationship not seeking perfection, but rather loving each other's imperfections. And instead of looking to the other person to meet all our needs perfectly, to take our eyes off of ourselves and put them onto our own Children Within both.



I believe that the only perfect Love is the Child Within. We are constantly nurtured by it: with oxygen, with sun, with community and with free will. We are fully supported in this life by our Recovery of our relationship with our child within. It is the thoughts of lack, of fear and of neediness that make us feel as if we are not. When we remember this, we can remember our true essence and start to be at peace with ourselves. When we realise that the only perfect love is our relationship with our child within, we can no longer have the insane expectations that other people are perfect and expect perfection from them.



We then step into the reality of imperfection that is the human condition. This is a TRUTH place and it is from this TRUTH place that we acknowledge that we need to grow, to work on ourselves and to walk the Path of our child within. To be in relationship with someone who isn't on this path makes life extremely difficult, and opens us up to our past suffering.



So, are you willing to step out into the ten stage course? Remembering that we are challenged by our own pain, grief, and suffering.