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Fear locked the doors of our  Child Withins Hiding place.Fear is the process that  triggers a strong physical response in our childhoods when confronted by a threat. Fear produces the adrenaline that prepares us for the classic "fight or flight" response to threatening situations. When we fear, we anticipate the possibility that something bad might happen soon. Our bodies shut down all long or non-critical functions as we prepare for immediate physical action. Our digestive systems shut down and expel unnecessary waste. Our immune systems and growth systems are put on a lower priority as we prepare to deal with sudden, immediate threats. Our heart beat and breathing quickens to provide increased oxygen to our muscles. Our senses heighten and our peripheral long range thoughts are relegated. Fear is a survival instinct that preserved some of our ancestors in moments of extreme danger. So fear can be a good thing. However, prolonged fear - also known as stress or anxiety,...

Our unchosen dissociative relationships are relationships with family members who suffer from dissociation disorders. They are called "Unchosen" since the They are called "Unchosen" since they are relationships which we made no choice to participate in. Unchosen is a term used to describe those of us who did not choose their relationship to a person with a dissociation disorder. Some of us have parents with this disorder; others have a sibling, in-laws, or other familial relationships. We did not choose this relationship the same way a person chooses a relationship to a partner with or a friend.

Feelings and emotions that you will experience when dealing with a person practicing dissociation in the home or at work: You may feel like this person readily puts you down just to elevate themselves. You may find yourself avoiding them because trying to communicate with them leaves you feeling confused, put-down, reduced to a lesser status and emptied of all that you know you really are. You may feel overwhelmed, "out-gunned", tongue-tied or overpowered in the presence of this person. You may feel blown away by their powerful personality, self-assuredness, self-belief and self-confidence. Your own legitimate needs may be taking a back seat to their own frivolous, self-serving dissociations. When receiving a compliment or apology, you may be left feeling patronised, demeaned, brought down to size and even humiliated. You may attempt to compromise with them only to realise later that you are the only one who gave any substantial ground. You may feel like you...

Living with or being involved with dissociation can be mentally and emotionally exhausting. It can feel like you have to perform "mental gymnastics" from dealing with the lying (even when confronted with undeniable proof ), the gas-lighting, the triangulation, the projection, the constant contradictions, the manipulation, blame-shifting, the charm they lay on, the inflated sense of self - even subtle forms of torture, such as sleep deprivation, these people inflict on their victims - appears to be conscious and calculated to push the target of their "affections" past their limits, into surrender - and ultimately into total compliance - as a source of dissociational Supply. Children, spouses, friends, lovers - those closest to dissociation  - are not considered individuals in their own right by the dissociated - but rather extensions or, in the worst cases, the property of the person practicing dissociation.  Even after finding out that you are dealing with a sub...

The Solution in The Program is Loving-Kindfulness:The first key of Loving-kindfulness communication, is having a Kindful presence. This means having an open mind, awake body and a tender heart. When you have a Kindful presence, you give up expectations, stories about yourself and others, and acting on emotions. You are fully in the present moment; your communication isn’t focused on the “me” and what the “me” needs, but the we. Kindful listening is the second key to mindful communication. Kindful listening is about encouraging the other person. This means looking through the masks and pretence and seeing the value in the person and the strengths he or she possesses. It’s looking past the human frailties and flaws that we all have to see the authentic person and the truth in what that person is attempting to say. Kindful speech, the third key, is about gentleness. Speaking gently means being effective in what you say. It’s about speaking in a way that you can be hard. To be gentle wi...