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Feeling Isolated - It's common for people who have dissociations to systematically isolate themselves from other external relationships. When we find ourselves in situations where we are subjected to abuse or unfair treatment, it is an instinctive reaction to reach out to others for help. If this help arrives on time and in an effective way, the abuse victim will feel encouraged to repeat the action the next time abuse occurs. However, if the response to a cry for help is misguided or untimely, the abuse victim may feel humiliated or confused and be discouraged from seeking help in the future. Because people who suffer from a dissociated personality  do not always fit the mould of typical human behaviour or thinking, the kind of "common sense" advice which is often given out can be counter-productive or dangerous.  hopeful counter-productive advice: She'll probably just grow out of it - they all do. He seems to have really turned things around lately. I know you g...

Fear locked the doors of my Child Withins Hiding place.Fear is the process that  triggers a strong physical response in our childhoods when confronted by a threat. Fear produces the adrenaline that prepares us for the classic "fight or flight" response to threatening situations. When we fear, we anticipate the possibility that something bad might happen soon. Our bodies shut down all long or non-critical functions as we prepare for immediate physical action. Our digestive systems shut down and expel unnecessary waste. Our immune systems and growth systems are put on a lower priority as we prepare to deal with sudden, immediate threats. Our heart beat and breathing quickens to provide increased oxygen to our muscles. Our senses heighten and our peripheral long range thoughts are relegated. Fear is a survival instinct that preserved some of our ancestors in moments of extreme danger. So fear can be a good thing. However, prolonged fear - also known as stress or anxiety, is ...

The Ten Stages is the only program that guarantees three outcomes...Grief..Pain ...Suffering. Also we accept the 5 Stages of Grief - Denial, Bargaining, Anger, Depression and Acceptance - these were first introduced by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross to describe a process which of us go through when dealing with a significant tragedy or loss.Remember we are recovering a relationship with our child within who has been betrayed and abandoned over many years sometimes a whole lifetime. The 5 Stages of Grief are: Denial Bargaining Anger Depression Acceptance Most of us go through our own version of the 5 stages of dissociated grief as we come to terms with the reality that we are dealing with our child within who suffers from a significant abuse and abandonment issues and whose childhood personality is deeply disordered, perfect but disordered brings long term struggles and difficult choices that we have now to face. In a way, we face a death - death of the dream of coming from a "normal...

Going it Alone within the ten stages/Taking Time Out for our child within. WE individuals who has spent years in a world where chaos is normal and there has been a dominant destructive or abusive personality in our life, the vacancy that is left once the relationship ends can be terrifying. Sometimes people feel a sense of panic and ask themselves questions like: What if nobody wants me? What if there's something wrong with me? What if I'm getting too old and it's getting too late? Why can't I find a normal relationship? What if getting hurt and being abused are really just normal? Being unsure about ourselves sometimes causes us to make mistakes when we hook up with someone else. We either do it too fast or we hook up with someone who isn't good for us. We need a time of grief Grief is a normal, response to loss that is normal, healthy  going through our Grief Cycle usually does not all come out at once or in just one way. The 5 Stages of Grief - The 5 Stages of ...

INTULEXIA is an intuitive technique of writing down whatever thoughts and feelings come to mind on a topic without taking a break, stopping to think or slowing down to correct spelling & punctuation.  "Intulexia Penning" has been developed by the Program - a taught course that offers contact with their child within who are grieving that loss and attempting to release the child into its own freedom. In INTULEXIA, we take a blank notebook or sheets of paper and writes about a topic or answers questions about a topic. The key in INTULEXIA penning is to write as much as you possibly can in a 30-45 minute window without taking your pen away from the page or stopping to reflect, think or analyse what you have written. Spelling, grammar, accuracy or appropriateness are all considered secondary. Just writing our thoughts down as fast as they come flooding in is the key. Confidentiality is crucial in PENNING. What you are writing is for your eyes only. You may later decide to sh...

Dissociation Definition:Dissociation- is used to describe a mental departure from reality. When Feelings Create Facts: Feelings are just that... Feelings, and may have no basis in fact at all... they are just feelings. - Child Within recognition We who dissociate sometimes believe feelings over facts. What we feel at a particular time becomes reality for us. As our moods change, we may rearrange or rewrite facts to make us more consistent with the way we feel. When confronted with “hard evidence” which contradicts the way we instinctively feel about something, we feel a sense of discomfort. However, if the information is compelling enough, most of us will learn to adjust our opinions or our feelings in order to maintain a consistent world view. We who disassociate however, are able to reject or modify “hard evidence” if it does not support the way we feel or believe the world to be. Dissociation goes beyond common mental errors, fantasy or self-indulgent denial. It is a pervasive pat...

Truth,Trust and Consent & Abuse Amnesia Definition: Abuse Amnesia - Abuse Amnesia is a form of suppression where an abuse victim has trouble remembering episodes where their boundaries have been violated.The Program has the ten stages to show solutions Description: Abuse Amnesia is a strange occurrence which is common among us who have been abused. When a abused person is interviewed or asked about how they are treated by the abusive person they are close to, they will often generalise a positive response. This positive response could be interepreted as denial, but it is also likely that the abuse victim just doesn't remember all the things they have been through. Abuse amnesia is a natural outcome of Confirmation Bias, where information which contradicts what a person wants to believe is neglected or forgotten quickly and information which confirms a belief is amplified and paid attention to. Abuse amnesia is common in situations where a person is still invested in the succe...